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4 tips to find peace when your ex asks for divorce

Some people know when their marriage is nearing the end, but others are blindsided when their spouse tells them they are filing. The aftermath of the announcement might not be exactly what you expect. Thinking about some of the finer points of life after finding out you're going to divorce can help you to adjust to the situation.

On the top of your list is going to be living arrangements and working out the financial aspects of the split. As you move forward, you can also use these tips to keep your stress to a minimum.

Find your trusted confidante

Your emotions are going to be all over the place for a while. Try to determine whom you can talk to because you will need voice them. Remember that you want someone who is in your corner and who isn't going to relay information to your ex. Some people choose to work with a therapist so they have the confidentiality they need during this time.

Don't ask too many questions

You might think that you want to know exactly why your ex is leaving, but it isn't going to do any good. Because it won't change things, don't ask why they are leaving. Just stick to the information they were willing to relay when they told you they wanted to split and leave it at that.

Let them live their life

There is no need to stalk social media pages or try to get your ex back. The marriage is over and it is time to move on without that person. While this is often a hard pill to swallow, you'll feel better when you have come to terms with the split.

Plan to move forward

You need to make plans for enjoying your life. Find activities that fulfill and enrich you and pursue those. Now is the time that you can set your life up in the way that you want it. Sit down and set goals and make plans to reach them.

Throughout the divorce process, you need to make sure that you are doing what is in your best interests. This isn't always going to be easy because you might have to battle with your ex over certain things, such as property division. Making sure that you know your plan ahead of time can help you stick to it as you go through the process.

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