If the thought of divorce is inspiring fear, you are not alone. In general, society places a stigma on divorce and a higher value on people who remain married. This creates a lot of pressure to stay in an unhealthy marriage. However, divorce is stressful enough without these societal pressures. It can change your life in completely unknown and unexpected ways.
Even though divorce seems very scary, there are many benefits to ending a bad marriage. Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t be scared of divorce.
The pain is temporary
Ending any relationship is often a very painful process but staying in an unhealthy relationship can have worse consequences. The pain of divorce will eventually pass and you will be able to move on with your life.
It’s better for your health
If you are miserable in your relationship, you might start to manifest mental or physical symptoms. In many cases, the stress of a bad marriage can cause various medical problems including depression and anxiety.
It’s better for the kids
Many couples stay together in a bad marriage under the misconception that it will better for the kids. This usually is not the case. Children tend to know when their parents’ relationship is in bad shape. They will suffer more growing up in a household where there is constant tension or fighting. By ending your marriage, you might be able to provide them with a healthier environment.
Making the decision is usually the worst part
For many people, simply voicing the decision to divorce or taking the first step in the process gets them over the worst part. Once you make the choice to divorce you can let your attorney do the fighting for you.
You can reinvent yourself
People are always growing and changing. This is completely normal and is one of the reasons why people grow apart. If you and your spouse have fallen out of love because you are not the same people who got married so many years ago — and you are now incompatible — it might be time to split up. Once you have decided to divorce, you can work on the life you truly see yourself living.
While divorce can be very scary, the benefits usually outweigh the negatives. Once you get over the first hurdle of making the decision and taking the first step, you can relax while your attorney takes care of the rest. If you are considering divorce, keep in mind that the fear and pain is temporary.