Once your divorce is final, you'll turn your attention to establishing a new normal. While you have to focus on yourself, it's critical that you do whatever is in the best interest of your child.
There are many things you can do from a co-parenting perspective to feel good about the future. Conversely, there are a variety of co-parenting mistakes that can get in your way, including but not limited to the following:
- Losing your temper: As frustrated as you may be, it's important to keep your cool in all situations. You never want to lose your temper when communicating with your ex-spouse or your children. Know your triggers and learn how to control them.
- Putting your children in the middle: Even though your marriage is over, you may still be at odds with your ex-spouse. You should never put your children in the middle, as doing so will create a divide that is hard to heal in the future.
- Fighting in front of your children: No matter how difficult it is to bite your tongue, it's something you need to do. Fighting in front of your children can cause trouble now, while also leading to issues for them in the future. If you're going to argue, do so when your child is not around. Even better, find a way to avoid this altogether.
- Avoiding communication: If you can't get along, you may assume that the best approach is to avoid communication altogether. It's okay if you cut back on how often you speak, but you can't eliminate this entirely. Good co-parenting means staying in touch, asking and answering questions and doing whatever it takes to keep your child in a good place.
- Violating your parenting agreement: You created a parenting agreement for a reason. You need to follow it, no matter what it takes, as this will ensure that both of you are always on the same page.
It's easy to say you'll avoid these co-parenting mistakes, but you may find yourself making one or more of them at some point.
If you're doing your best to stay on track but the other parent doesn't seem to care, don't hesitate to learn more about your legal rights. You should never sit back and let the other person continually violate the parenting agreement.