Shared parenting puts your children first, but it might prove to be challenging for both parents. This can make it difficult for the adults. There are ways to make the situation a little easier for everyone involved.
You and your children can benefit from a less stressful situation. You won't have to dread dealing with custody matters and your children might not cringe when they know you will have to deal with your ex. Consider these ways of making the whole situation more cordial.
Respect is mutual
You and your ex must respect each other, but the respect can't end there. You must make it clear to anyone who is a part of the situation that all adults will be given respect and must reciprocate that respect to the other adults. This is a situation that will start with you and your ex, so make sure you are being the model for this type of behavior. You should also make sure that everyone is respecting the children in an appropriate manner.
Communication is essential
You and your ex have to be able to communicate freely. You should make sure that you aren't speaking in a demeaning manner. Even if you and your ex don't get along, he or she is still your child's parent. You have to remember that the other parent should be working with you for the child's best interests. When there are some contentious issues that come up during the child's life, think about things from an outside point of view. You need to put your child first in all of these matters. Sometimes, taking a step back is highly beneficial.
Consistency is important
Part of the shared parenting model is that both homes have consistent rules. This can make it difficult for you to customize your home to your needs, but it can certainly help the children. Of course, there are some people who say that this harms children because it hinders their ability to learn how to adapt to different situations in life.
As you and your ex work through the issues that will come up, you need to make sure that you are within compliance of the child custody order. This legal document will be essential as an authoritative resource to refer to when you and your ex may not see eye to eye on the resolution of certain issues.