Divorce is a tumultuous time for many people. Mourning the loss of the relationship that is ending and the uncertainty of what is to come can make it difficult to focus on getting the divorce matters handled appropriately.
Some divorces end through mediation, which is when you and your ex work together to come to the terms of the divorce. It is important that you take time to prepare for mediation because going in without a plan could be disastrous.
Work on a budget
Even before your first mediation session, you need to make a budget for your new life. This will give you an idea of what you are able to spend each month based on your solo income. You might have to work with your ex to figure out who gets the house and the cars. Having your budget ready now will enable you to determine if you have funds for mortgage or vehicle payments while keeping up with other bills.
Take stock of assets
Know what you have in assets that need to be divided. Write these out and determine which assets you want to keep and which ones you are willing to let go. Bring your list with you so that you have something written to help you remember what you need to do. This can also help to ensure that you don’t have any assets that slip by and end up in your ex’s hands.
Take a few deep breaths
Mediation sessions have to be times of negotiations. It is always better to go into these mentally ready to deal with your ex. On thing that you have to remember is that getting upset isn’t going to help you stay on task with your mediation session. If your ex does start getting to you, it is possible for you to ask to speak to the mediator alone. The mediator is there to help keep the session on task and to help you and your ex work together.
You have specific rights and responsibilities during the divorce process. It is important that you take the steps necessary to protect your rights, so don’t try to rush through everything just to get the divorce done with. If things don’t work out with the mediation sessions, you can always turn to the court to determine how everything is divided and handled.